A Letter for Two BIC Boys
Among the great blessings of the latter-day restoration of the Melchizedek priesthood and temple ordinances is the authorization and ability to bind in heaven that which is bound on earth.
This essay summarizes a specific portion of the temple blessings mentioned above. When a couple are sealed together as husband and wife, any children born to the couple are said to be "born in the covenant" (bic), which means that such babies are automatically sealed to the parents for time and eternity.
The following represents a portion of a letter that I wrote to my oldest two sons – one while serving a mission, and the other while serving in the military in the Middle East. The somewhat preachy and personal use of language in this essay is due to the original letter format directed to my sons.
One should never underestimate the binding powers of the priesthood and its temple ordinances. It is common in LDS families for some to be living righteous lives while others within the same family are living riotous ones. Do righteous parents have a claim on their wayward children? The answer is yes. We don’t know all the details. This is one of those rare doctrines that many life-long LDS don’t appreciate. See: “Hope for Parents of Wayward Children,” Ensign, Sep 2002, 11. Read the following quotes:
Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, Section Six 1843-44 p.321
The world is reserved unto burning in the last days. He shall send Elijah the prophet, and he shall reveal the covenants of the fathers in relation to the children, and the covenants of the children in relation to the fathers. …
When a seal is put upon the father and mother, it secures their posterity, so that they cannot be lost, but will be saved by virtue of the covenant of their father and mother. …
The speaker [Joseph Smith] continued to teach the doctrine of election and the sealing powers and principles, and spoke of the doctrine of election with the seed of Abraham, and the sealing of blessings upon his posterity, and the sealing of the fathers and children, according to the declarations of the prophets.
Elder Orson F. Whitney, Conference Report, April 1929, p.110
You parents of the wilful and the wayward! Don't give them up. Don't cast them off. They are not utterly lost. The Shepherd will find his sheep. They were his before they were yours--long before he entrusted them to your care; and you cannot begin to love them as he loves them. They have but strayed in ignorance from the Path of Right, and God is merciful to ignorance. Only the fulness of knowledge brings the fulness of accountability. Our Heavenly Father is far more merciful, infinitely more charitable, than even the best of his servants, and the Everlasting Gospel is mightier in power to save than our narrow finite minds can comprehend.
The Prophet Joseph Smith declared--and he never taught more comforting doctrine--that the eternal sealings of faithful parents and the divine promises made to them for valiant service in the Cause of Truth, would save not only themselves, but likewise their posterity. Though some of the sheep may wander, the eye of the Shepherd is upon them, and sooner or later they will feel the tentacles of Divine Providence reaching out after them and drawing them back to the fold. Either in this life or the life to come, they will return. They will have to pay their debt to justice; they will suffer for their sins; and may tread a thorny path; but if it leads them at last, like the penitent Prodigal, to a loving and forgiving father's heart and home, the painful experience will not have been in vain. Pray for your careless and disobedient children; hold on to them with your faith. Hope on, trust on, till you see the salvation of God.
Elder Boyd K. Packer, “Our Moral Environment,” Ensign, May 1992, 66
We cannot overemphasize the value of temple marriage, the binding ties of the sealing ordinance, and the standards of worthiness required of them. When parents keep the covenants they have made at the altar of the temple, their children will be forever bound to them.
Joseph Fielding Smith Jr., Doctrines of Salvation, Vol.2, p.91
But children born under the covenant, who drift away, are still the children of their parents; and the parents have a claim upon them; and if the children have not sinned away all their rights, the parents may be able to bring them through repentance, into the celestial kingdom, but not to receive the exaltation.
Discourses of Brigham Young, J.A. Widtsoe (compiler), p.208
Let the father and mother, who are members of this Church and Kingdom, take a righteous course, and strive with all their might never to do a wrong, but to do good all their lives; if they have one child or one hundred children, if they conduct themselves towards them as they should, binding them to the Lord by their faith and prayers, I care not where those children go, they are bound up to their parents by an everlasting tie, and no power of earth or hell can separate them from their parents in eternity; they will return again to the fountain from whence they sprang.
Elder Lorenzo Snow, Collected Discourses, Vol.3, October 6, 1893
God has fulfilled His promises to us, and our prospects are grand and glorious. Yes, in the next life we will have our wives, and our sons and daughters. If we do not get them all at once, we will have them some time, for every knee shall bow and every tongue shall confess that Jesus is the Christ. You that are mourning about your children straying away will have your sons and your daughters. If you succeed in passing through these trials and afflictions and receive a resurrection, you will, by the power of the Priesthood, work and labor, as the Son of God has, until you get all your sons and daughters in the path of exaltation and glory. This is just as sure as that the sun rose this morning over yonder mountains. Therefore, mourn not because all your sons and daughters do not follow in the path that you have marked out to them, or give heed to your counsels. Inasmuch as we succeed in securing eternal glory, and stand as saviors, and as kings and priests to our God, we will save our posterity.
Elder James E. Talmage (cited by A. A. Hinckley) Conference Report, October 1919, p. 161
"I promise the Saints in the Deseret stake of Zion that if their lives are such that they can look their sons and daughters in the face, and if any of them have gone astray, that the parents are able to say, 'It is contrary to my instruction and my life's example; it is against every effort of love, long suffering, faith, prayer and devotion that that boy or that girl has gone,' -- I promise you, fathers and mothers, that not one of them shall be lost unless they have sinned away the power to repent."
The idea of wayward children being automatically sealed to parents who have been married from time and all eternity in the temple is an advanced doctrine, but it can be understood when received in the correct spirit.
A key idea behind this sealing doctrine is that we are accountable as parents. We need to raise our children the best that we can. We need to fulfill our duties. By grace, after (as well as before and during) all that we can do, God will bless all sealed families with great mercy. This is NOT a “second chance” doctrine. It merely says that families are eternal, as sealed up by the powers of heaven. It is my belief that such wayward children in the spirit prison will have the opportunity to learn much of what was lost in this earth life. Parents in this life and the next will be able to say to those wayward children:
Repent of your sins and recognize righteousness as righteousness. Accept Christ and His atonement . Come live with us in our kingdom. We need you at our side.
In my opinion, wayward children would have to reject this message to be lost forever.
Read the following:
D&C 131:1 and Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, Section Six 1843-44 p.301
In the celestial glory there are three heavens or degrees; and in order to obtain the highest, a man must enter into this order of the priesthood [meaning the new and everlasting covenant of marriage]; and if he does not, he cannot obtain it. He may enter into the other, but that is the end of his kingdom: he cannot have an increase." (May 16, 1843.)
Bruce R. McConkie, Mormon Doctrine, p.779 TEMPLE ORDINANCES
Baptism for the dead, an ordinance opening the door to the celestial kingdom to worthy persons not privileged to undergo gospel schooling while in mortality, is a temple ordinance, an ordinance of salvation. All other temple ordinances -- washings, anointings, endowments, sealings -- pertain to exaltation within the celestial kingdom. Celestial marriage is the gate which puts men on the path leading to the highest of three heavens within the celestial world.
I wrote this conclusion to my sons:
Another blessing for you being born in the covenant is that you can have parents who are faithful in writing letters of support to you while on missionary and military service. Be assured, I still have much to learn, but I still have much to teach.
I am not saying I am infallible, or that I give perfect advice. But, I do think there will be some benefit in referring to your father’s words on occasion as prompted.
You are the kind of persons that will have impact on many souls. You have been given the gifts of faith, discernment, sociality, happiness, leadership, wisdom, speech, and health. Use those gifts to benefit the kingdom.
Your heritage is rich. You have pioneer ancestors. You came from farmers who knew the earth. You stem from the Mayflower pilgrims. Your ancestors were scientists, musicians, and lawyers. But, none of these facts matter. What matters is that you were truly born under a covenant of Abraham. You are BIC boys.
This essay describes some of the blessings associated with the modern temple. In the temple children are sealed to parents. Further, parents are sealed to their parents, and so on. LDS theology insists that family relationships on this earth have inherent meaning that ultimately can be validated in the House of God by the Holy Priesthood. In my opinion, to disavow the eternal nature of the family is a form of nihilism.
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