A most difficult question is: Why do good people suffer? It has been asked for ages, and will be asked for ages more. The scriptures provide general answers, but the question is still difficult. Full answers lie between the sufferer and God, and likely will not come in this lifetime.
Tragedy is always near. We may be currently experiencing it, or perhaps we know those who are. When calamity comes, the questions begin. Why did I have to get cancer? Why did my buddy have to die so soon? Why did I lose my job? Why am I paralyzed? Such questions and many more like it are natural when we suffer.
Suffering, of course, is relative. Our own problems may diminish in size when they are compared with those of starving children in Africa or with a violent murder across town. When I was an elementary school student I remember being crushed by overwhelming “problems.” I remember losing sleep. I remember the feelings associated with these problems, but I cannot even remember what the specific problems were. I suppose as a 4th grader that it was great humiliation to tell Mr. Dalton, my teacher, that I didn’t do the homework for the day. Important problems then, now seem insignificant. My childhood amnesia aside, real problems do exist in good families.
One does not have to search much farther than the lives of the Latter-day prophets to find righteous men who have suffered. President Joseph & Emma Smith lost several children during their hardships, and, of course, Joseph was eventually murdered, leaving Emma a widow and their children fatherless. President John Taylor was severely shot in the same Carthage jailhouse. He carried lead bullets from that event the rest of his life. President Joseph F. Smith lost his father, Hyrum, in that same scene of martyrdom. President Heber J. Grant never knew his father, who died shortly after his birth. His mother was left in poverty for a time. Many other examples could be given. Each and every Church president could be listed.
No one’s life is free from tragedy. Tragedy is the refiner’s fire. Alma 34:32 says, “this life is the time for men to prepare to meet God.” There are lessons to be learned from suffering, and the scriptures give us hints as to what those lessons might be.
The Apostle Peter (1 Pet. 1:7) described “the trial of your faith, [as] being more precious than of gold that perisheth.” Ether 12:6 exhorted “ye receive no witness until after the trial of your faith.” Thus, suffering can be a faith and testimony building experience, if we let it be.
The Apostle Paul taught that tribulation teaches us how to console the suffering.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
3 ¶ Blessed [be] God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;
4 Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.
We suffer because we are human, offspring of God. Again, the Apostle Paul said:
Romans 8:16-18
16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:
17 ¶ And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with [him], that we may be also glorified together.
18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time [are] not worthy [to be compared] with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
2 Corinthians 4:17-18
17 For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding [and] eternal weight of glory;
18 While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen [are] temporal; but the things which are not seen [are] eternal.
Paul is telling us that our sufferings are insignificant when compared to eternity. Further, he is saying our momentary afflictions can work for eternal purposes. Paul says these things not to lessen the hurt of suffering, but to allow us to bear the burden of it. Suffering is suffering. We need not seek it, but we must endure it (Article of Faith #13). Peter (1 Pet. 2:20) noted that there is a difference between suffering we deserve and suffering we do not. “For what glory [is it], if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer [for it], ye take it patiently, this [is] acceptable with God.” Peter is admonishing us to suffer patiently, as did Jesus. Jesus, of course, did not deserve his suffering.
When suffering becomes extreme, one does well to remember:
1 Corinthians 10:13
13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it].
This passage is a promise that we can bear the burdens of life. We can bear our burdens, as difficult as they may be, because of the atonement:
Alma 7:10-13
10 And behold, he shall be born of Mary, at Jerusalem which is the land of our forefathers, she being a virgin, a precious and chosen vessel, who shall be overshadowed and conceive by the power of the Holy Ghost, and bring forth a son, yea, even the Son of God.
11 And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people.
12 And he will take upon him death, that he may loose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities.
13 Now the Spirit knoweth all things; nevertheless the Son of God suffereth according to the flesh that he might take upon him the sins of his people, that he might blot out their transgressions according to the power of his deliverance; and now behold, this is the testimony which is in me.
A few years back I remember speaking on the phone to my parents. I was rather grumpy. My mother offered me words of kindness by saying “Hang in there!” I snapped back, “I have done nothing but hang in there. When do I get to stop hanging?” Part of life’s test is to determine how we react under stress and tribulation. I failed the test that day. However, the good news of the atonement is that today I get to do a make-up test and try again and again until I get it right.
As grumpy as we can be, we are in good company. Job, in the Old Testament, was both an impatient and patient sufferer. At one point he argued (Job 7:11): “Therefore I will not refrain my mouth; I will speak in the anguish of my spirit; I will complain in the bitterness of my soul.” At other times, Job testified boldly: “For I know [that] my redeemer liveth, and [that] he shall stand at the latter [day] upon the earth.” The prophet Habakkuk (Hab. 1:2), frustrated with the violence happening to Israel, exclaimed, “O LORD, how long shall I cry, and thou wilt not hear! [even] cry out unto thee [of] violence, and thou wilt not save!” Stationed on a watchtower, he finally did get an answer, even a grand vision. It is OK to speak forthrightly to God, regardless of whether one is full of optimism or pessimism. The important point is to keep directing our concerns to God. He knows our hearts. There is no need to hide feelings in personal prayers.
The prophet Enos may or may not have been grumpy the day he went into the forest to pray. But he did describe his experience as a “wrestle which I had before God” (Enos 1:2). He said (verse 4): “And my soul hungered; and I kneeled down before my Maker, and I cried unto him in mighty prayer and supplication for mine own soul; and all the day long did I cry unto him; yea, and when the night came I did still raise my voice high that it reached the heavens.” He said (verse 10), “While struggling in the spirit…, the voice of the Lord came into my mind….”
In December of 1838 Joseph Smith was inappropriately incarcerated into the now famous Liberty Jail, Missouri. He languished there for over four months. While there, he received some of the greatest latter-day revelations. He was told:
D&C 122: 7
And if thou shouldst be cast into the pit, or into the hands of murderers, and the sentence of death passed upon thee; if thou be cast into the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.
At another time in the Liberty Jail, the Lord said,
D&C 121:7-8
7 My son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment;
8 And then, if thou endure it well, God shall exalt thee on high….
Suffering is a fact of life. We can transform this evil into a good by learning from it, by extending our faith, and by learning to lean on God. How should we comport ourselves as we suffer? What is the proper attitude? One might begin with a search of the scriptures:
John 5:39
39 Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.
We must seek Jesus for rest:
Matthew 11:28-30
28 Come unto me, all [ye] that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
30 For my yoke [is] easy, and my burden is light.
We must cast our burdens upon God:
Psalms 55:22
22 Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.
We must pray continually:
D&C 75:10-11
10 Calling on the name of the Lord for the Comforter, which shall teach them all things that are expedient for them--
11 Praying always that they faint not; and inasmuch as they do this, I will be with them even unto the end.
We must keep an eternal perspective:
2 Corinthians 4:17
17 For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding [and] eternal weight of glory;
Nephi said (2 Ne. 2:11), “For it must needs be, that there is an opposition in all things.” The same verse uses the metaphor of “compound.” “All things must needs be a compound,” it says. That is, life is a mixture of holiness and misery, in order to know righteousness from evil. Suffering is inevitable. Therefore, we all must “hang in there.” May the blessings of God be upon us, as we all must endure the challenges of life.
*****For Study and Marking*****Phil. 4:6-7 —“[T]he peace of God … passeth all understanding.” See footnote 6a.
Ether 12:27 —“I give unto men weakness that they may be humble…, then will I make weak things become strong unto them.”
Mosiah 3:19 — “[Be] willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict.”
Isaiah 64:6-8 — “[W]e are the clay, and thou our potter” – God will shape us.
2 Nephi 2:15 — “[I]t must needs be that there was an opposition.”
Hebrews 12:6-9 — “For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth”; See also Proverbs 3:11-12
2 Corinthians 4:8-9, 17 -- “We are troubled…,yet not distressed.” Our momentary afflictions work for an eternal purpose.
D&C 121:1-7 — “O God, how long shall it be before thine…ears hear the piteous cries” -- Adversity shall last but a small moment.
D&C 122:7-9 — “[A]ll these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.”
Moses 1:39 —“This is my work and my glory…”
Isaiah 55:8-13 —“[I]nstead of the brier shall come up the myrtle tree” – The ugly will be replaced with the beautiful.
Matt. 7:24-25 —“[T]he winds blew… and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.”
D&C 98:1-2 —“[Y]our prayers have entered into the ears of the Lord of Sabaoth.” Note:”Sabaoth” means Hosts, as in Lord of Hosts or armies of Israel (See B.D.)
D&C 75:10-12 —Pray always and the Lord will be you “even unto the end.”
John 14:27 — Jesus is the comforter -- “Peace I leave with you.”
John 16:33 —“In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer”
2 Timothy 1:7 —“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power…”
Hebrews 5:8-9 —“Though he were a Son, yet he learned obedience by …[suffering].”
1 Cor. 10:13 — We are not tested or tempted beyond our abilities.
1 Peter 2:19-23 — Good people suffer in order to learn patience, to follow Christ’s example, and to recommit to God.
Alma 7:11-12 —Jesus will take upon him our pains, sicknesses, and infirmities. See Isa. 53:4-5.
13th Art. of Faith —“[W]e have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things.”
Romans 8:18 — Our sufferings are insignificant when compared to eternal glory.
Alma 36:3 —The words of Alma to his son Helaman: “[T]rust in God [to] be supported in [your] trials, and [your] troubles, and [your] afflictions, and [you] shall be lifted.”
2 Cor. 1:4-5 —Our tribulations teach us how to comfort and console others!! “[O]ur consolation … aboundeth by Christ.”
Jer. 8:22 — “Is there no balm in Gilead?” -- The balm (an ointment made from the gum of a tree in Gilead / Jordan) symbolizes the healing power of the gospel coming from Palestine.
Hab. 1:2 —“O LORD, how long shall I cry, and thou wilt not hear!” Even the prayers of prophets are answered on the Lord’s timetable.
Enos 1:4 —“[A]ll the day long did I cry unto him.” After long prayer, the sins of Enos were forgiven.
Ps. 55:22 —“Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee.” See also Isa. 10:27 and 2 Ne. 20:27 and surrounding verses for prophecies related to Assyria (Iraq).
2 Ne. 2:2, 8 —The philosophical core of the Book of Mormon: The Lord “shall consecrate thine afflictions for they gain.” We enter “the presence of God” by “the merits, and mercy, and grace of the Holy Messiah.” See also: Hel. 5:9; 2 Ne. 10:24, 25:23; Moroni 10:32.
John 9:2-3 — Regarding the cause of a man’s blindness: “Master, who did sin, this man, or his parents, that he was born blind?” Jesus answered, “Neither.” He then healed the man. Our maladies are not the result of irrelevant sins, but exist as challenges that may be overcome to manifest the works of God.
2 Cor. 12:8-9 —Paul sought the Lord three times to remove a physical infirmity. Then the Lord said to him, “My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” Paul concluded, “[I will] glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
Ps. 86:13 —“[G]reat is thy mercy… and thou has delivered my soul from the lowest hell.”
Jacob 4:6-7 — Even though the faith of the Nephites was “unshaken,” Jacob tells them, “[T]he Lord God showeth us our weakness that we may know that it is by his grace … that we have power to do these things.”
Mosiah 24:13-15 — While the people of Alma were held captive, the Lord came to them saying: “I, the Lord God, do visit my people in their afflictions.” Alma then reported: “[T]he Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease.”
*****There are times that we all suffer. We cannot escape it. When we run into individuals that are suffering, the principles taught above will help us counsel them. As we counsel, however, show sympathy without pretending that you know what it is like to be in the shoes of the sufferer. Suffering comes in too many forms to ever be able to legitimately say: “I know what you are going through.” Avoid that phrase at all costs.
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